Time to put on your big boy pants and pop the probably most important question of your life. Exciting? Definitely. Nerve-wracking? You bet.
Whether you’re already plotting something epic or still staring blankly at that empty ring box, this guide is here to give you practical advice, light-hearted tips, and a few hard-earned lessons (including my own proposal mishap in the Moroccan desert… more on that later).
I’m an Edinburgh engagement and proposal photographer. I’ve captured hundreds of proposals over the past 15 years, so I’m speaking from experience—short and to the point.
Let’s dive in.
Watch this proposal tips video for practical advice.
1. Don’t Overthink It
This is probably the number one thing I say to guys planning a surprise proposal. I get emails from absolutely lovely but totally stressed blokes trying to plan something worthy of a Netflix rom-com. Relax.
Simplicity is key.
Unless your partner is expecting fireworks, a flash mob and a hot air balloon, there’s no need to overcomplicate. The more elements you try to control, the more can go sideways (weather, people, tech, nerves… you name it).
A meaningful moment in a beautiful spot, a heartfelt question, and you’re golden. Bonus if someone captures it well (hi, that’s me).
And a quick note:
Some folks ask for Zoom or WhatsApp calls to plan everything down to the second. I totally understand the nerves, but this is meant to be joyful—not a military operation. The proposal process is super straightforward. You’re always welcome to call me if needed, but I do charge for planning calls.
2. Why Now? And Are You Both Ready?
Have you two ever talked about the future? Has she dropped any hints? You want the surprise to be about how you propose, not if you propose. You don’t want to catch her totally off guard emotionally. Trust me, mariachi bands and heart-shaped rose arrangements are fab — but only if she’s already in the zone for that next big life step.
This reflection also helps with things like:
Choosing the right ring style.
Deciding whether she’d prefer a private or public proposal.
Coming up with a wee speech (doesn’t have to be Oscar-worthy — just from the heart).
My own story? Let’s just say it involved a desert, no ring, and a cracker. We’ll come back to that…
3. Choosing the Ring (and How to Carry It)
You’re probably already thinking about the ring. Keep in mind:
Her taste – ask her best mate or sister (if they can keep a secret).
Stone & metal – classic diamond or something colourful? Gold, platinum, something else?
Packaging – sounds silly, but it matters!
A ring box looks great in photos but can be bulky.
A pouch is easier to hide, especially if you’re not carrying a bag.
Either way, practice pulling it out without dropping it. You will be nervous.
🎥 I’ve seen all kinds – guys keeping the ring pouch in their sock, waistband, hiding it in the bag… get creative but make it secure.
Me again – I picked a lovely ring, had it ordered in, but days before the trip… the shop sold it to someone else. Yep. No ring. But I still proposed — with a circle-shaped cracker. It worked out in the end (ring came later). Lesson learned: don’t leave ring shopping too late.
4. When and Where to Pop the Question
Now that you’ve thought through the emotional side and sorted the ring, you can start planning when and where.
If you’re traveling, or choosing a spot in your local area, think about:
– Weather & lighting
– Time of year
– How private or public the location is
– If she’ll want to go there with you
You kinda have to think like a movie director: How will this look and feel? Not overthinking, but having a vibe in mind helps.
Need ideas?
Check out my blog guides:
Popular proposal spots in Edinburgh
More quiet and secluded places for intimate moments
I wanted to propose in the Moroccan desert. We were staying near one of the tallest dunes, and I thought—this is it. But… she had a fever, and I could barely walk after days on camels. Still, we climbed the dune at sunset. No ring, just me and a circle-shaped cracker. (She said yes, but was very confused.)
Moral of the story: don’t leave the ring to the last minute.
5. Choosing a Photographer
Of course I’m going to say yes — but hear me out.
Having a photographer allows you to relax and just live in the moment. I’ll stay out of the way, capture the genuine reaction, and we can do a wee portrait session afterwards. You’ll be grateful for these memories.
When choosing a photographer:
Do you like their style?
Have they shot in your location before (or are they happy to scout it)?
Do they handle surprises well (busy spots, moving crowds)?
Are turnaround times and pricing clear?
I also shoot little videos during proposals as a bonus. It’s a lovely keepsake.
6. Proposal Day Tips
The big day is here! Excitement is high. Nerves are real. Here’s how to keep it cool:
Dress smart (both of you):
Guys often worry about how they look, but forget their partner might not be dressed up. Some clever excuses I’ve heard: “We’re going to a fancy lunch,” “There’s a private tour,” or even “a talk with a dress code.” One guy got her in an evening gown—legend.
Keep in touch with your photographer:
I usually share my WhatsApp to communicate on the day in case anything changes.
Don’t bring a big bag:
It’s awkward to carry and ruins the photos. A small bag to hide the ring is perfect.
Timing matters:
Don’t hang around the location too long—do the proposal as soon as the moment feels right. Make sure your photographer is in place and ready.
Hide anything distracting:
Put your water bottle, bag, etc. on the opposite side of your body so it’s out of the shot.
Good luck with the speech!
If you forget it all and just say, “Will you marry me?”—you’re still winning.
Back home from Morocco, I took her to a small local restaurant and did it all over again—this time with the ring, in the box. Happy ending. Lesson learned: don’t cut ring deadlines too close.
7. Time to Celebrate!
You did it! She said yes, you’ve taken some portraits, and now it’s time to celebrate.
If you’re proposing in Edinburgh, here are a few special places I recommend:
The Dome – Classy spot for drinks or lunch. Beautiful interior, always a hit.
Palm Court – Afternoon tea done right. Fancy and fun.
Department of Magic – Quirky place with potions and smoking cocktails. A blast!
Edinburgh Street Food – Chill, casual vibes with great food variety.
Secret Domes – Romantic glass pods with a view. Very Instagrammable.
Book in advance—these spots fill up fast.
Final Thoughts
Proposing is one of the most memorable things you’ll ever do. You’ve got this.
Whether you plan something grand or keep it low-key, the most important thing is that it feels right for both of you.
I hope this guide has helped. Let me know if you have questions—and good luck!
Cheers,
Armands
Your Edinburgh Proposal Photographer
